Designed for education
Built from teaching, senior leadership and how people remember information under pressure.
OWN.UR.OWNGuided Work Throughs & Coaching
Work through it, privately and at your own pace.
Practical resources that take you step by step through conflict, pressure and emotionally difficult circumstances. Start with the product you need, then add coaching support only if you want it.


Separate fact, claim, feeling and evidence.
Pause, assess, communicate and record.
Rebuild choices, confidence and direction.
Why OWN.UR.OWN
For individuals, leaders, MATs and organisations supporting people through pressure outside the usual workload.
Built from teaching, senior leadership and how people remember information under pressure.
Clear steps for difficult personal situations, communication and steadiness.
Use them privately at your own pace, or work through them with a coach.
The Work Throughs

Separate facts, interpretation, allegations and evidence. Build a clear chronology without being pulled into someone else's version of events.

Navigate bait, pressure, message floods and boundary testing with concise, practical communication.

Move from survival and high conflict toward identity, values, choices, confidence and direction.
Who this is for
OWN.UR.OWN focuses on behaviours, patterns and impact. We do not need to diagnose anyone for you to get clearer.
The Coaches

Founder & Coach
Sophie is the founder of OWN.UR.OWN™, a former Assistant Principal and senior leader in secondary education, with a career specialising in coaching, teaching and learning.
She worked across a number of ARK schools, coaching and developing teachers and leaders, and has also worked as a Science Advisor for BBC Bitesize.
Her work has always centred on breaking complex knowledge down so people can understand it, remember it and use it in pressured situations. OWN.UR.OWN applies that same instructional coaching approach to emotionally difficult, high-pressure moments.
Sophie began an MSc in Learning and Teaching at the University of Oxford. After completing the first year of the two-year programme, she paused her studies to have and raise her two youngest children.
It was during her time at Oxford that Sophie began developing the coaching principles that would eventually evolve into OWN.UR.OWN™.
Throughout her career, colleagues naturally gravitated towards Sophie for help navigating difficult conversations, workplace conflict and challenging interpersonal dynamics. Soon, friends and family were doing the same.
Sophie realised that the skills she had spent years using professionally - breaking down complexity, recognising patterns and turning insight into practical action - could help people far beyond the workplace.
Her own experience of navigating high-conflict dynamics, co-parenting and the family court system brought that idea sharply into focus.
OWN.UR.OWN™ was born from a simple principle:
Coach
Rolan is a classically trained professional actor with an established career across the West End and television, alongside his work as a coach with OWN.UR.OWN™.
At the heart of his professional training is the detailed exploration of human behaviour - character, motivation, relationships, objectives, emotional responses and subtext.
Years of character analysis have taught Rolan to look beyond simply what somebody is saying and explore what may be driving an interaction underneath it.
Combined with a strong interest in psychology and emotional intelligence, this gives Rolan a distinctive approach to coaching: helping people step outside emotionally charged situations, recognise the dynamics at play and become more intentional about how they respond.
Within OWN.UR.OWN™, Rolan brings a complementary perspective to Sophie's structured approach - particularly around behaviour, motivation, communication and interpersonal dynamics.
Work With Us
You can choose to simply download the PDFs and work through them independently at your own pace, or work through them live with Sophie or Rolan.
Choose OWN UR STORY, OWN UR RESPONSE or OWN UR LIFE
Quick support between Work Throughs
Best self-study start
Pocket Coach PDF plus one Teams/Zoom session
All three Work Throughs plus live support
Pay together, or £85 per session
For Schools, MATs & Companies
When staff are carrying more than their workload, they may need a clear, private way to find a path through.
Enquire about guided Work Through sessions, conflict coaching for senior leadership, prospective leaders and those at the beginning of their leadership journey, personal pressure affecting work, communication, boundaries and calm next steps. We can shape support for colleagues, leaders or individuals who need private resources alongside practical coaching.
Flexible payment options may be available at checkout, including Klarna, Clearpay or PayPal Pay in 3, subject to provider approval.
Ready to begin?
For Work Through access, coaching enquiries or help after purchase, contact hello@ownurown.co.uk.